Monday, November 29, 2010

Oh well, that is that then

Ryan had been staying with friends and popping in and out for stuff, he told Pete that he wanted to come round at 4.30 on Monday for a chat, and when he got here he sat down and the first thing out of his mouth was "What do you want me to say?" Arrogant to the last.

He totally denied calling me a cunt in front of the other kids on Friday night, won't admit that his aggressive behaviour is wrong, refuses to back down and will not agree to treat us with respect, so Pete has told him he can't come back.

I wanted him to stay, but Pete went nuts at his total arrogance and refusal to back down. We can't live like that anymore. His Mum, who he can't stand, is coming to get him at 10.30pm. That is the first time she's come to get him in 5 years. I told her to enjoy him teaching her girls to say cunt.

We are all relieved to be honest. The other kids don't give a crap and are glad to see the back of him, which is very sad and all his own doing.

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Ryan doing what he does best...causing trouble

It's all happening here, I think he's probably moving out to be honest as he is not prepared to behave like a decent person towards me and Pete or the other kids. He thinks he's the boss of us all and we just can't take it any more. He's buggered off to work now but I doubt he'll be back.

He started yet another row with me again. This has been happening multiple times a day, so much so that I now hide in my bedroom of an evening while pete is at work. He asks me questions, then argues really aggressively when I answer. He was going on and on about us moving, how he hates where we live, when can we move, why haven't we moved already, why do we have to live in such a shithole, surely we can afford somewhere else etc(we had the same conversation with him yesterday). I told him we can't move for two years and he was just so rude and condescending towards me. Pete told him off for being rude and he was doing his usual "If she talks to me like a cunt I'll do it back". Nice. I told him that he needed to treat me with respect in my own house, I'd taken him in and he can't even talk to me like a human being. I said it would be best for him to just not speak to me at all as he keeps starting these arguments, and if he can't do that he'll have to go, and he started getting really personal. It all came out that he's been telling Pete that I'm horrible to the kids in the evenings when he's at work, then all nice when he gets home(Pete asked the other kids and they said it was rubbish). The thing is, Ryan has been doing the same in reverse and telling me that when I'm at work Pete goes to bed all day and leaves Kit unsupervised, which I know isn't true as the house is tidy when I get home. He's doing it to split us up! How messed up is that?

His ego seriously needs taking down a peg or two. He needs to grow up a bit and realise that the world doesn't owe him anything, might make him realise a few home truths. :(

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

We got the new mortgage!

All our hardwork getting the house sorted(well, half-sorted) has paid off and we have been accepted for a decent mortgage with a reasonable interest rate, with smaller payments over a shorter term, which will make such a difference to us straight away. I'm so glad those 2am decorating marathons paid off! It should all be done downstairs by spring, then we need to decorate and re-carpet the upstairs, and we can finally rent this place out.

We went away for a much needed change of scenery at the beginning of November to my friend Deb's house. We took the two youngest children with us and left Ryan at home, where upon he proceeded to announce the free house to the whole town on Facebook. Thankfully only about 12 people turned up. Taylor went to his Nan's as we didn't think the journey of approximately three hours would agree with him, as he has a habit of getting carsick on long journeys. We stayed up in Sheffield for two night, and it was lovely to see my friend, and just to get out of the house for a bit really. We came back all full of the joys of spring.

Me, Deb and her sister Nikki.

Wednesday, November 03, 2010


Isobel wanted to be Medusa for Halloween, so I spent about an hour and a half plaiting her hair with wires inside. It was lots of fun to wrestle it out of there afterwards too.

She wore a completely different outfit for her school halloween disco. I was at work so couldn't do her medusa hair, so we went for the easy option, that old faithful, the witch.

Kit wasn't too impressed with the whole knocking on peoples doors in the dark thing. It baffled him a bit, I think.